When a break up happens, there are plenty of avenues to travel down in trying to get him back. You’ve probably heard all about them. However, you need to know that there are some very definite things that you should NOT do if you hope to ever have a chance of reconciling with your ex. If you choose to ignore these tried and true tips, you probably won’t get your ex back and you may as well move on with your life.
The first thing you should do is let your ex believe that you’ve accepted his decision. Let him believe that you, too, feel that parting is probably the best thing to do and let him go. This is a very important first step. Don’t beg or plead for him to stay. You can do your screaming, cursing and crying after he’s safely out of ear-shot.
At first, let him believe that you agree with him. Don’t keep trying to communicate with him, and don’t let him communicate with you. Sometimes that makes it easier for him to stay broken up with you because he knows that you’ll still be there for him if he needs you. That’s something that you should take care of instantly, even if you must tell him out right that you won’t be staying in touch with him. If you’re not in contact, then he’s going to have a better chance of missing you.
Don’t stay in and hibernate. Give yourself a few days to mourn the demise of the relationship and then start getting out again. Call the friend you trust the most and make a date to go out. Even if you don’t feel in the best of moods yet, go anyway. Make yourself at least try to have some fun. Word will get around that you’re out and about, which is just what you want to happen.
Don’t let yourself go. In fact, if you’ve been thinking about all of the improvements that you can make to yourself, now is the perfect time to do them. Start eating healthier, work out more and get a new hair style. When you go out to try to have some fun, you’ll also look great and word of the brand new you will filter its way back to your ex.
Don’t say no to dating. Obviously, you don’t want to mislead anyone, but maybe you’ve got a guy friend or two that will want to spend some time with you. Both of you pay for each other so that it’s not a real date but your ex won’t know that when word of seeing you out and about with a new guy gets back to him.
If you can refrain from doing all of these things, you stand a much better chance of getting back together with your ex. These are all things that are pretty much guaranteed to at least get his interest up. Soon enough, he’ll be at your door again.